Today's reading is found in Genesis 33. It tells us of the encounter between Esau and Jacob. These brothers had done much wrong and in the process had wounded one another. The pain of betrayal was so great that Esau had vowed to kill Jacob (read Genesis 27:41). But now the moment of encountering each other had arrived. It was a very difficult task and Jacob feared for his life. But it's interesting to note he followed certain things before he went out to meet his brother.
First, Jacob divided his family into groups. He placed a few of his children at the beginning, then in the middle and finally at the end. But notice that he went at the front of the whole group. Second, he bowed seven times before reaching his brother as a sign of respect and submission. Notice also that Jacob had sent gifts ahead of him for his brother. Then, Jacob's entire family bowed before Esau. And finally, Jacob spoke kindly to his brother.
Today I've learned some important lessons about reconciliation. First, it is I who need to face the situation. I don't need to send anyone to say anything because I must confront my problems. Second, I must approach whomever I've offended with an attitude of respect and submission. I can't go in thinking of how hurt I feel or how dissappointed someone has made me feel. Third, a gift will usually be a sign of a willingness to fix the problem. It doesn't have to be a whole bunch of camels (that's what Jacob sent), but maybe the other person's favorite candy or a gift card to their favorite store or restaurant. Simply a token of good will. Also, I must ensure that those around me show proper respect to the person I am approaching. This is critical because I cannot infect others with my own views of the other person. How can I fix things with someone else if I am talking trash to those who surround me? Finally, I must speak gently and kindly. I can't go to someone else accusing and blaming. I must remember what the Bible says in Proverbs 15:1, "A gentle answer deflects anger, but harsh words make tempers flare."
Remember these important lessons on reconciliation and they will do your broken heart and relationships much good.
2 comments:
I have had to work hard on the forgiving & reconciliation with some people, but it sure has been worth it. Once I say, “I’m sorry forgive me” then it’s in their hands & they can do what ever they want. They have to answer to God for it, not me.
This is in the Church & out. I think our Church has gone through some of this in the past years.
jacob was afaid to see his bother esau,llet alone ask for forgiveness.but when esau seen jacob he ran to hIm and huged his neck.esau did not want jacobs appeasment,he took it after jacob asked him more than once to please take it.when we hurt some one it may take some time to ask for forgiveness because we are afaid to talk to that person.maybe thats what the person we hurt is just waitihg for (Iam sorry)let it be in Gods time.
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